I'm Responsible For My Happiness

When relationships do not progress as we think that they should, it's probably for the best. And quite frankly, when we take the time to think about it, we already knew that the relationship was doomed even prior to its destruction. In addition, we sometimes find it difficult to allow another person into our lives because we want to hold them accountable for what our past mate did or did not do. We push the person with potential to the side because we hold on to the hurt that others have caused us. And, even though we desire to move on, we hold on to the junk that we should release and wonder why we have a difficult time in future relationships. Why do we do this? Because we are human and each human has a different way of dealing with hurt, deception and betrayal.

My friends who know me are aware that I have a very low tolerance for "junk" and foolishness. When I see foolishness coming, I go the opposite direction. I have been labeled the one that can walk away from a relationship and continue on like nothing concerns me. Well, while that's somewhat true, what's more important is that I want to be happy and if I'm not happy, I'm not Tammy. I am as real as they come and when I say that I can walk away from a relationship that doesn't bring me happiness, I say that after I have thought deeply about the direction that the relationship may or may not take me. 

The bottom line is that I give much thought to my happiness. I give much thought to what I will and what will not allow in my life. I give much thought to where I am and where I want to be. My happiness does not depend on someone else - I am responsible for that. And because I am responsible for that, if I see that the relationship is not for me, I accept it as that and move forward. I shift my transmission to drive and I do just that.

So I say to you, while you may be hurt or depressed that a relationship ended, keep your head high and keep it moving! Some folk are not deserving of a relationship with you anyway. Have some dignity about yourself and walk away from the relatiosnhip just as proud as you did when you walked into the relationship. Then prepare yourself for bigger and better.

We deserve the best! Don't compromise. Don't settle. And don't give in. There are good people out there looking for good people to share their lives with. We can be treated like the kings and queens that we are. Be open to meeting that someone who believes in you and desires to support and encourage you in your endeavors.

Relationships are fun. Great relationships are everything!

Smooches . . .